Overcoming Your Fear of Doubt and Becoming More Confident

written by Sommy Chucks

Overcoming Your Fear of Doubt and Becoming More Confident

Do you ever feel like the world is against you? Like, no matter how hard you try, nothing is ever going to be okay? That nothing else in your life can ever be “good enough” because when it comes to other people and their expectations of you, the truth is: You’re always going to be “in the wrong”? Well, that’s kind of how I felt.

In a culture that constantly devalues women and femininity and says women don’t have it as good as men – and in a world where our personal boundaries are so often challenged and called into question – this feeling was paralyzing. It took me years to overcome my fear of challenging the status quo and become more confident in myself. And it will take you years to change your habits if you let them. But if you want to stop feeling like a fraud in your own home or at work or with friends…if you want to spend less time hiding your true self from the people who love you most… then reading on may help some small part of that goal be realized.

What is doubt?

Doubt is a state of mind. It’s not so much a feeling as it is a mindset. When you have doubt, you are always looking for reasons not to believe something is true. You’re always looking for reasons not to trust yourself or your own perceptions. That’s not to say that you should doubt everything – or even that you should doubt yourself – but that you should question everything: Why do I think this way? Why do I feel the way I do? What’s wrong with me that I can’t seem to trust myself? As you get further down the path to confidence, you will start to notice that you begin to doubt less and less often as you get older. By the time you’re 25, you’ve spent way too long holding onto negative thoughts and feelings. Now it’s time to let go and let God.

Why does my mind go into overdrive when I think about doubt?

We’re programmed from birth to fear uncertainty. We were made to run from one thing to the next, to keep our little bit of “ stability ” . But uncertainty is a part of life. It’s how we learn. It’s how we grow. And it’s how we become more confident. Doubt gives you an open-mindedness and an flexibility that you didn’t have when you were “conventional” thinking. It makes you see things from different angles and let go of preconceived ideas. It forces you to be comfortable with “not knowing” and “ignorance is bliss ”.

How to overcome your fear of doubt and become more confident

The key to overcoming your fear of doubt and becoming more confident is to recognize it in your own mind and then to replace it with a higher power – something you can believe in and trust. The more you replace doubt with confidence, the less it resonates within yourself and the more it feels like a “thing of the past”. When you recognize that doubt is something that you have and that you need to replace it with confidence, it’s much easier to start doing that. But first, you’ve got to notice your own thoughts and feelings. Then, you’ve got to replace them with confidence.

This is so, so, so, very important. If you notice that you’re having doubts or feelings of uncertainty, especially about something you’ve linked to your heart, then you need to sit down and write them all out. You need to jot them all down so that you don’t become forgetful (and so that you don’t miss those “why” questions that are always racing through your mind).

3 habits you can start implementing right away to become more confident

Don’t put off your self-esteem and confidence building “tricks” for tomorrow. Start doing them today. – commit to living your best life today -build healthy habits that will help you feel good about yourself tomorrow -spend 5-10 minutes every day looking in the mirror and taking care of yourself now -do something you love to distraction , so that you don’t go to sleep worrying about what you’re doing -have a “plan B” (or C) in case something unexpected happens -trust yourself -know that you are worthy of having whatever it is that you want -yes, even when you feel like a fraud

3 ways you can show others that you’re worth better than what everyone else thinks

Let them see you do things. If you don’t believe you can do something, you won’t do it. If you don’t know you can do something, you won’t do it. If you don’t show people that you can do something, you never will. -spend time doing something you love -share your passions with those you love -accept and kibitz on the latest “thing” that everyone is talking about -don’t be afraid to be yourself -don’t try to “be somebody” that you’re not -when you’re confident, you don’t need to try to be something you’re not -if you want to be a fraud, you’ll let yourself be one -trust yourself to do what’s right -don’t let others define you -yes, even when you feel like a fraud

Conclusion

As you can see, overcoming your fear of doubt and becoming more confident takes work. But it can be done. And it’s worth it. In fact, it’s the only thing that ever has been. Once you get over your initial jitters and misgivings and doubts, you’ll realize that you’ve been missing out on the most important thing in life. You’re going to start seeing more good things in your life than ever before. You’re going to start feeling better about yourself. You’re going to start feeling like you deserve the best things in life. And you’re going to do everything in your power to keep that confidence from leaving your room.

WATCH THIS VIDEO

ABOUT THE WRITER

Sommy Chucks is a Creative Writer and Content Creator, she focuses on creating contents, topics, and reviewing the articles.

Sommy Chucks is passionate about seeing the done with a particular attention to the finest detail and this fuels her passion for content creation. She Sees Contents as a means to express her core values in the simplest and most easily understood way.